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Why Gamers Make Great Boyfriends
12.02.10
Yes, that reads "Dumped Gamer Boyfriend". Yes, that is an actual shirt you can buy.
Gamers, as boyfriends, get a bad rap.
No, seriously. TheGloss insists that gamers are among the seven men you should avoid, and all gamers talk in “lolspeak” (ahem, it is leetspeak, ladies) and want to travel to other locations to meet people they’ve gamed with, which kind of leaves us wondering why, precisely, wanting to go to another country to actually meet the people who live there instead of going on a landmark tour is a bad thing. WikiHow features an article on “How to Get Rid of Your Boyfriend’s Game Addiction”. EvilWoobie complains that “hardcore gamers are the most high maintenance of the boyfriend breeds”…wait, breeds? As in dogs? And we’re the weirdoes?
Hell, Datingish actually goes all the way and offers the math that gamer=@$$hole. This is so accepted that girls taking “revenge” destroying their boyfriends property is pretty common on YouTube. Here’s one destroying her boyfriend’s Starcraft 2 beta. Here’s another with a girl destroying her boyfriend’s XBox. And in addition to that “Achievement” T-shirt, you’ve got items like the “Girlfriends Against World of Warcraft” button. It seems that anything with two X chromosomes and a heterosexual disposition has a mortal enemy, and that enemy apparently isn’t patriarchy or the glass ceiling or societal demands of impossible-to-achieve perfection, but controllers.
Keep in mind all of this is from websites that, by and large, don’t see anything wrong with spending $400 on shoes, $400 that could have gone to something more useful, like a PS3 bundle.
Here are a few simple reasons that gamers make good boyfriends that these sites have missed. Hopefully they’ll reconsider, as gamers have a lot to offer.
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Just have to take a second to say that gamer guys aren’t the only ones with a bad rep. Gamer chicks definitely have a lot of the same bad reputations as gamer guys, of being ugly, fat, socially inept virgins as well… and not all ladies have negative feelings towards gamer guys. And we certainly do not all fill those reputations.
Well, think about gamer chicks in popular culture (or at least associated with gaming). You’ve got Olivia Munn, Adriane Curry (who posted a photo of herself playing WoW naked), and Felicia Day. I think the closest gamer guys have been allowed near being attractive is freakin’ Vince Vaughn.
Not that I’m saying lady gamers aren’t in for all sorts of shit, usually of the “WOMAN DUR HURDY HUR” variety, but you’ve got to admit, it’s largely the guys getting the fat sweaty virgin shaft.
…wait, that came out wrong.
My husband is a gamer. He is always late, can’t make a decision, and will not clean when asked.
He does however know how to deal with idiots by being confrontational and getting in their face, has anger issues, knows how to find places, and can sit for endless hours upon hours staring at an Orc Mage killing things.
Although I love him for a lot of things, his gaming addiction is not one of them as it makes him turn into another person while playing.
I’m a gamer, but I know he’s got a problem with this and can’t get around it. I truly think its a form of depression. And try as I might I can’t get him to do anything about it. So I’ve gotten to the point of just leaving him to his devices. Yay apathetic mindset.
I’m curious,why is it bad to travel to another counrty and visit someone you have only spoken too or written too,that use to be meeting penpals. If your not into gaming dont date a gamer,but after 44 years on this earth there are much worse things a person can be.
I love this article. Funny and gives a good point. Now I game but I’m not hardcore into it but my fience loves gaming. I love to watch play. Sometime I even join in. My point is its a hobby, and like this article said, you can Get into any hobby too much. I love my man and his gaming hobby. I think women need to look at it as a bonding thing. Try to play with them. It actually fun! Even if you don’t like it remember you fell for them for some reason and falling for someone mean you take the good with the bad. I like gamers make good boyfriends
I really appreciated this article. I grew up on videogames and have been a social Gamer to downright hardcore at times. Yet I’m a cultured fella who enjoys ballroom dancing, singing, ocean kayaking, and cycling. Yet if I say I’m a Gamer- immediately it red flags a girl’s attention; typically I avoid mentioning it until a few dates or so. But even then it can be a problem.
Yet whenever a girl has gotten pass that little red flag, I’ve treated her like a queen.
Man, I love playing videogames with my boyfriends. I’m actually kind of disappointed that I can’t get him to play WoW with me. But really, if your differences with a woman are so bad that she wont date you because of a hobby, then I don’t see her being worth it. And trust me, there are plenty of good looking gamer chicks out there.
Not every gamer chick is fat, ugly or a virgin. Neither are the guys.
My girlfriend is a gamer and im a gamer as well its great to share a hobby together.These points can all be true but it also depends on the person her previous husband was a gamer but she never enjoyed playing with him.
He fullfilled the stereotype and im more of a guy who was all about a partylifestyle. At least before her the thing is a good person willing to develop himself can learn these traits from gaming. But there are lots of people who never learn anything from what they do.
Im very happy with my girlfriend we go out and do alot of things having fun more then i had with nongaming girls.
Cause honestly i dont hide my gaming if anyone dares looking down on it your pretty much done with me. Cause all that shows is your less of a person then i am and in a relationship its about being equal so i cant look down on someone im together with. At least thats how i see it game on people life is too short not to have fun!
Gaming is within life
Cleveland is charming? What happened recently?
nyce.
All these reasons why gamers make good boyfriends are acceptable…..but if you’re boyfriend is a camper kick that douche to the curb.
So, as a gamer girl, I notice we have a lot of the same problems, and you know what? It sucks. But it’s almost like this article is generalizing girls as well. I don’t wish to cause a problem, but you know, maybe the gamer guys are looking in the wrong place? I would love to have a gamer boyfriend, it wouldn’t make that much of a difference to me if he was a gamer, an athlete, or what not. Many gamers are athlete’s and such, but being a gamer doesn’t give you certain traits, other than helping you use your brain, or think a little more openly. And it’s a great stress reliever. It is a wonderful hobby to share, especially when both parties are looking for some kind of hobby or fun.
I really did enjoy this article, it was very nice to read, but sometimes it’s not just the gamer guys that have it bad. But seriously, if the girl wants you to get rid of a gaming system, then she’s probably not worth it. ;D
Oh… And I would much rather spend that $400 on a game system, or games than shoes.
My wife is a gamer, and a better shot than me at FPS games like Ghost Recon. In real life, she’s a mild mannered librarian. We love to team up on a LAN, and go for it. I’m still trying to get her to join my multi-billion ISK, 50 player member EVE Online corp, but she’s too busy playing Sims3 with all the add-ons, sitting as the PC next to me as I type this at 7:40 AM. We play PC games all night. We see movies, go to dinner, visit family, and friends, play board games; she loves Axis & Allies as the British.
I can’t imagine a better marriage.
Dam right, same with football.
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Ah, when you’ve finished your (very entertaining)rant at the vapid chicks who don’t deserve your attention, perhaps you’ll ignore the nauseating brainwashed females long enough to notice the keystroke-savvy vixen who zergs like it’s hot. I, personally, wouldn’t waste breath to placate a self-centered guy who doesn’t respect the words “raid night”. He would have my blessing to date whichever exasperatingly-meringue-headed shoe deity whom you care to sacrifice. Since she’s not much of a sacrifice, in my view, perhaps your energies could be spent on a girl with skills. Game. Be you. Maybe she’ll let you touch HER Starcraft…
Not really; some things are sacred.
What women don’t like are men who are occupied, intellectually. Women don’t like men with time-consuming careers either because that’s time and attention not paid to their precious little selves. It also explains how the meat-head with the minimum-wage job shoveling sh!t gets any girl at all; shitty job = time that the girlfriend can fill.
Women need to figure out how to occupy and entertain themselves beyond trying to inject themselves into every aspect of their boyfriends’ lives. If they can get over the fact that men with solid careers mostly think about stuff that is not their girlfriends, then they might be a little happier making their way thru life.
Man, you forgot the BEST thing about gamer dudes! They’re REAL GOOD with their fingers!
I’m married to one and it’s awesome!
You know what’s really awesome about guys who conform to the gamer = socially inept model? They REALLY appreciate their girlfriends. Treat them like gold. Most women will never see a guy so interested in their feelings and their hobbies as a guy who can quote half of star-wars and considers it his party piece. What’s even better is that this is NOT the full extent of his personality. There is more to it. Many a woman will be very happy with him if she can suck it up and play a few video games with him instead of trying to get him to quit. Spread out the hobby sharing. Women who read those kinds of magazines/websites and take advise from them aren’t too socially bright to begin with (you really, really aren’t)… and could probably use the following advice: Every man is unique. Quit pigeonholing, idiot. That’s why it never works out. The one thing in common with all your failed relationships is you.
(Happily married gamer chick to gamer dude number X)
…I am not against Gamers at all. Actually, I feel in love with one…I even went as far as to learn how to play WoW for him. I guess the problem is, he really doesn’t want me around when he plays and now he plays al the time…so we don’t really talk or see each other. So, I am guessing I am single? But not sure because he has been so absent.
I am a Level 80 Night Elf Druid though…how sad huh?
It has now gotten to the point that….as long as there is a “new release” coming up…for ANYTHING…He doesn’t really need me LoL.
I’m currently dating a gamer boyfriend..to make it worst we’re in LDR. He play games MW3 ,TF2 (whatever online game he can get on hand)…and enjoy intensive gaming and attended LAN like i45 and I gave him a whole lot of freedom to play the saddest part is..recently there is i46 during summer vacation..he’s complain he’s a saddest man on earth for not going there..I begin to wonder..does he prefer gaming that much then coming back to his homeland and spent sometime with his family and me..does gaming really that important to him than me..till we want to change his mind for staying at England during summer to play at LAN then coming back.It’s been months that we see each other,beside webcam..not much.and we didn’t chat that much.I really missed him bad..